Target on the Job
Oh, man. I think I've been called the b-word in at least 7 or 8 languages now, by both students and parents. Being the bad guy -- the one who testifies for the school in expulsion hearings, I have found, paints a big, red target on your back. Maybe it's just because I'm tired, but today's verbal attack in the hallway, after the discipline hearing, brought me to tears. (Of course, I made it to the bathroom before letting anyone see.) It's so hard when you give so much of yourself to help a kid and they (along with their parents) repay you by attacking you. Question: Is it really true what they say about moving targets? If that is, in fact, true, I gotta make sure I'm never in one place that long. Maybe last one to the meeting, and first one out?
Target in Dating
As long as we're already going with the target metaphor, would the same concept be true for dating? If it's difficult to hit a moving target, would that NOT appeal to the "hunter" in a man? It's been long-time common knowledge that women who are "too available" or who give themselves over without a chase of any kind, can quickly lose the interest of men. If this is true, then are women not best suited to present themselves as attractive "prey" and then "dash out of the thicket" as quickly and gracefully as possible? Example: Critical entrance to a party, not focusing on any man for too long, etc, etc. The only problem I have experienced here is: the prey doesn't actually get to pick hunter, and, after all, dating is "open-season." Question: What to do when you are shot by the wrong one? Or, the one YOU like hasn't re-loaded his gun or, worse, due to prior dating injury, is gun-shy? Even better question: What would dating be like if the the prey and the hunter swaped roles?
Oh, man. I think I've been called the b-word in at least 7 or 8 languages now, by both students and parents. Being the bad guy -- the one who testifies for the school in expulsion hearings, I have found, paints a big, red target on your back. Maybe it's just because I'm tired, but today's verbal attack in the hallway, after the discipline hearing, brought me to tears. (Of course, I made it to the bathroom before letting anyone see.) It's so hard when you give so much of yourself to help a kid and they (along with their parents) repay you by attacking you. Question: Is it really true what they say about moving targets? If that is, in fact, true, I gotta make sure I'm never in one place that long. Maybe last one to the meeting, and first one out?
Target in Dating
As long as we're already going with the target metaphor, would the same concept be true for dating? If it's difficult to hit a moving target, would that NOT appeal to the "hunter" in a man? It's been long-time common knowledge that women who are "too available" or who give themselves over without a chase of any kind, can quickly lose the interest of men. If this is true, then are women not best suited to present themselves as attractive "prey" and then "dash out of the thicket" as quickly and gracefully as possible? Example: Critical entrance to a party, not focusing on any man for too long, etc, etc. The only problem I have experienced here is: the prey doesn't actually get to pick hunter, and, after all, dating is "open-season." Question: What to do when you are shot by the wrong one? Or, the one YOU like hasn't re-loaded his gun or, worse, due to prior dating injury, is gun-shy? Even better question: What would dating be like if the the prey and the hunter swaped roles?
